The Biggest Problem With Weddings
Straight to the Point
Your wedding day comes with a hidden problem: Lots of prep, little reward. Sure, the bride and groom walk away with, besides one another, wonderful memories. On the surface that doesn’t seem like a bad thing. You put a lot of work into your much anticipated day. You want the occasion to be something you remember forever. But that’s the catch; you probably won’t remember most of it.
Why is this a Problem?
Let’s add perspective. Compared to the planning, effort, and money, we retain a disproportionately small amount of details from the day. My wedding was about $45,000. My wife had to work two jobs, I had to work extra hours, and had to set our wedding 14 months into the future to give us time to save. For that year we hustled hard in order to make sure our wedding was debt free. Yet, despite all the time and effort we put in for that one amazing day, 4 years later we have admit we only remember about 10% - 20% of it (and most of what my wife remembered was the stuff that annoyed her). We spent too much money to forget something so monumental! But you can’t chose the memories your brain decides to keep.
But Wait, There’s More 😮…
Here’s where things get interesting. My wife and I were at the same wedding, experiencing everything together. However, we remember different parts of the same event. Despite being together for the majority of the day, there are things she remembers that she has to remind me happened. Even scarier, there are things we remember individually that the other has no recollection of at all! This means that there are important moments of my wedding that would disappear from HISTORY unless it was part of the small percentage of memories we retained. If there’s no evidence or memory of a particular moment in time, did it really happen? #PicsOrItDidn’tHappen
This is the problem with weddings.
You spend thousands on a wonderful fleeting moment
just to have it disappear as though it didn’t happen.
The Answer Is Not What You Think
The solution to this problem is video, not photos. Photos have their place, but videos are uniquely positioned to preserve the past. When years go by and you look at a picture of the ceremony, it won’t tell you what was said. It won’t replay the sound of your voice reciting your vows or let you hear sound of your guests as they cheered, laughed, and cried. These are the details that make your day special. These are the details you will want to remember. These are the details you will want to show your kids and future generations. These are the details are worth remembering.
Choose Your Story Style
Like photos not all videos are created equal. There are different styles, and each with a unique way of retelling your story. You need to determine what style suits you. If you’re unsure of your video style that’s ok! Click the link below to get updates. I’ll send you a Video Style-Guide and include recommendation of videographers that fit that style.
It’s ok to have the wedding of your dreams… but don’t let the memory fade like one.